Wedding Invitation Etiquette 101

Wedding invitations designs may have come a long way since the formal announcements of decades past. You can now find an invitation to fit all personalities and wedding styles! While options are now vast, the one thing that hasn't changed is proper etiquette. See the FAQ below for advice on how to send out modern invitations, while still honoring the proper traditions of generations past.

1. When should we send out our save the dates?

  • Save the dates are traditionally sent out six to eight months before the wedding. You want people to have plenty of time to make arrangements to travel, especially if you are having a destination wedding. Our turnaround time for save the date production + shipping is two weeks after final approval of design proofs, so try and factor that time frame into your planning.

2. When should we send out our invitations?

  • Traditionally, invitations are sent out three months before the wedding. That gives people appropriate time to make flight arrangements and book hotels. If you don't have many out of town guests, somewhere around six to eight weeks is acceptable. Keep in mind that our turnaround time for invitation production + shipping is three weeks after final approval of design proofs. 

3. When should we make the deadline for our RSVP cards?

  • The RSVP deadline should be discussed with your wedding venue or caterer- they may request a head count by a specific date. The timeline is typically two to three weeks before your wedding date. If some guests still haven't responded by your deadline, don't hesitate to give them a quick call or shoot them an email to ask for their RSVP.

4. We want to include our wedding website. How should we do that?

  • We suggest that you include your wedding website information on your save the date card. If you aren't sending save the date cards, or forgot to include the website when you sent them out, you can also include a small insert including that information. We sell them in our shop under "website insert".

5. We want to make our guests aware of our registry. What's the polite way to incorporate that information?

  • We suggest you don't include your registry information in any of your wedding correspondence. Instead, make sure your immediate family and bridesmaids are aware of your registry information, and they can inform your guests. You should also include your registry information on your wedding website. Most people will already be aware that they can find your registry information on your wedding website without you having to make it too obvious.

6. We are having an adult only reception. How do we reinforce this?

  • If you address your invitations to "Mr. and Mrs. Jane Doe" and not to "the Doe Family", guests should understand that the invitation is meant for only those addressed. Sometimes people don't get subtle hints, and may RSVP for their children as well. If that happens, call or email them and let them know that the wedding is for adults only, and that you hope they can still make it. 

7. Where should we include the dress code?

  • You can touch on the dress code in a few different ways. You can include it on your wedding website, or you can spell it out on an insert or reception card. You can also include it on the invitation itself in a smaller font.

8. Can I address my own envelopes?

  • Yes, but it's not recommended. A wedding is a formal occasion, and you want your envelopes to reflect that. Working with a calligrapher is the preferred method, but if you are on a budget, we offer address printing in the same fonts as your invitation of choice. More information on envelope addressing here.

9. Can include our meal choices or dietary restrictions on our invitations?

  • Absolutely. We suggest you include that information on your RSVP card. Dietary restrictions aren't standard on our RSVP card, so it would be considered an add-on and would incur a proofing fee.